I Go – You Go – Ego

Have you ever been in an argument that escalates and, at some point, you just want it to end because it’s not worth the energy it takes to be right? You may have the urge to apologize, but you feel like it’s not your fault or your turn.

Do you find that you keep score? As long as it’s your turn, you apologize: “I go.” If you think it’s not your turn, then the other person must go: “You go.” My guess is that often you think it’s their turn to apologize and they think it’s your turn. Checkmate: “Ego.”

If there is one loser in a relationship, you really don’t have a winner. When given the opportunity, drop the “I,” “You” and “E” and just “go.” Go ahead and apologize. Do what’s best for the relationship!