I Go – You Go – Ego

Have you ever been in an argument that escalates and, at some point, you just want it to end because it’s not worth the energy it takes to be right? You may have the urge to apologize, but you feel like it’s not your fault or your turn.

Do you find that you keep score? As long as it’s your turn, you apologize: “I go.” If you think it’s not your turn, then the other person must go: “You go.” My guess is that often you think it’s their turn to apologize and they think it’s your turn. Checkmate: “Ego.”

If there is one loser in a relationship, you really don’t have a winner. When given the opportunity, drop the “I,” “You” and “E” and just “go.” Go ahead and apologize. Do what’s best for the relationship!

If and It

Say “if and it” five times as fast as you can. Ready, set, go!

It’s kind of hard to say, it sounds silly, and it’s a little bit confusing! But how easily these two simple words wiggle their way out and wreak havoc. They make such a mess of things.

If I could’ve gone to college…. If there were more hours in a day…. If I just had more money…. If I could only have some of what she has…. I wish I could get it. It’s not fair! When I get it I’ll be happy.

Why not do a follow-up to these statements? Don’t defend them. Ask the follow-up questions.

“If I could have gone to college….” I can’t change the past, but what could I do differently right now? I could take an evening class. I could sign up for an online computer course. I could buy a book with the specialized information I am looking for. I can educate myself in many ways.

“If there were more hours in a day….” I can’t change the hours in a day, but I can use my time more wisely. What are the most important things I need to do today? What could I do less of so that I can start doing more of what I want?

Start filling in the blanks to your “ifs” and “its” and create the future you’ve been wishing for!

Dreams

When you lose your dreams, you lose your way. Imagine packing your car and leaving for a two-week vacation without a destination. Unless your vacation plan was to wander aimlessly, you’d probably become frustrated pretty quickly.

Life is the same way. When you don’t have a dream, you’ll find that your activities often feel aimless. If you have a dream, you have a direction. Even when you get off-track, you can adjust because you know your ultimate destination.

All of us deserve a dream, a vision and a purpose. Is it time to explore your dream?

Dreams Seminar